Please can we talk about suicide?
Why Language Matters: Changing the Way We Talk About Suicide
Words hold power. The language we use shapes perceptions, influences emotions, and can either reinforce or dismantle stigma. This is particularly true when it comes to conversations around suicide. As someone who has spent years as a Samaritans listener, a counsellor, and a coordinator of a youth suicide prevention charity, I have witnessed firsthand the impact that words can have, both on those who are struggling and on the loved ones left behind.
Moving Away from "Committing Suicide"
Historically, the phrase "committing suicide" has been widely used in news reports, conversations, and even within professional settings. However, it is a term that carries harmful connotations. The word "committing" is often associated with crimes or moral transgressions—committing a crime, committing a sin. This language inadvertently adds layers of guilt, shame, and blame to what is already a devastating and complex tragedy.
Suicide is not a crime. It is not a moral failing. It is the result of immense pain, suffering, and often untreated mental health conditions. By changing the way we talk about suicide, we can create a more compassionate and supportive space for those who are struggling, as well as for those who are grieving.
Alternative, Compassionate Language
Instead of "committing suicide," we should use terms that are neutral, accurate, and free from judgment:
"Died by suicide"
"Took their own life"
"Lost their life to suicide"
These phrases acknowledge the tragedy without implying wrongdoing. They allow us to discuss suicide in a way that respects both the person who has died and their loved ones who are mourning.
Why This Change Matters
The words we use shape the conversations we have. When we speak about suicide with compassion and understanding, we help reduce stigma. This encourages more open discussions, making it easier for individuals in crisis to seek help without fear of judgment. It also provides comfort to grieving families, who already face an incredibly painful loss without the added weight of language that suggests blame or guilt.
The Role of Media and Public Discourse
Journalists, media outlets, and public figures have a responsibility to use language that is sensitive and appropriate. Reporting on suicide responsibly means avoiding sensationalism, providing resources for support, and ensuring that language does not perpetuate stigma. News reports should strive to use "died by suicide" rather than "committed suicide" and should include information about crisis support services whenever discussing suicide-related topics.
A Call for Compassion
If we truly want to support those at risk of suicide, as well as the families affected by it, we must start with the way we talk about it. Suicide is already an incredibly painful reality, let’s not make it even harder with outdated, harmful language. Instead, let’s use words that foster understanding, kindness, and hope.
Changing our language won’t erase the pain of suicide, but it can help create a world where those who are struggling feel seen, supported, and able to reach out for help.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please seek support. You are not alone.
Eleanore
